Are You Missing the Point by Looking in the Wrong Direction? We’ve all been there. That uncomfortable, lingering feeling that something isn’t right. You might not even be able to name it—just a sense that life feels stuck, stagnant, or somehow off-track. You look around, try to shake it off, chase a new goal, or double down on your current path. But the discomfort doesn’t go away. Maybe the real problem isn’t that you’re lost; you’re just looking in the wrong direction.
We’re wired to believe that forward is always the answer. Progress. Productivity. Growth. These are the buzzwords we live by, the signs we use to measure whether life is “working.” So, when we feel stuck, our instinct is to keep pushing forward—run faster, work harder, climb higher. But… what if forward isn’t the answer? What if the path you’re on was never yours to begin with. Sometimes, the more we chase what we think we want, the further we get from what we actually need.
What Are You Actually Looking For? When we feel stuck, our first instinct is try and fix things external: new job, new city, different project, maybe even a new partner.
Now put down your coffee before you read the next line.
Ready?
If you’re searching for meaning in the same direction that brought you dissatisfaction, has it ever occurred to you that you are just walking deeper into the wrong forest?
Nope, don’t pick up that coffee cup just yet. Instead, ask yourself this:
- Are you chasing something you chose… or something you were told to want?
- Are you seeking validation or fulfillment?
- Are you following a path… or a crowd?
If those questions sting a little, don’t despair, for you’re not alone. Most of us don’t stop to reflect on them until something cracks open or falls apart. Until we feel that nudge, that ache, that question whispering in the background: Is this it?
Remember your elementary school lessons about crossing the road? Stop. Look. Listen. Clarity doesn’t come from moving forward — it comes from stopping, looking at your life with critical eyes, and listening to your heart and then changing direction. That elusive clarity will emerge from slowing down; from listening to the parts of yourself you’ve been ignoring in all the noise of what you’re “supposed” to be doing. Maybe it’s not about a bigger paycheck, but about more time. Maybe success, for you, looks quieter than you imagined and includes a backpack instead of a private jet.
It’s okay to change your mind.
It’s okay to step off the road.
It’s okay to accept you’ve been climbing the wrong mountain.
If you’re not ready to make a huge leap just yet, or if the idea of a radical change feels overwhelming, start with small shifts. These little tweaks can provide a sense of control, and they allow you to test the waters without fully committing to the unknown. These gradual shifts offer a low-risk way to explore new directions. They give you space to experiment, reflect, and slowly build the confidence to make larger changes if you feel called to do so. Sometimes, it’s these subtle but consistent adjustments that add up to bigger shifts in your life. After all, small changes can have profound effects over time.
For some, like me, the only way forward is a dramatic shift — a bold, radical 180-degree turn. This kind of change requires courage, but it can also be incredibly liberating. Imagine deciding to move to a new country, quitting a stable job to pursue a passion, or radically altering your lifestyle in search of something deeper. The caveat here is that this leap of faith often involves letting go of security in favour of freedom, parting with expectations that don’t serve you, and most importantly, choosing uncertainty over the comfort of the familiar.
“Direction” doesn’t always mean forward or backwards. It can mean deeper. Softer. Still. It means choosing presence over progress, authenticity over achievement. The truth is, you might not be stuck at all. You might just be searching for meaning in a place it doesn’t live.
So stop, look, and listen within. You might discover that the point you’re missing… is you.
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